For some it’s delight to think (precisely feel) about love and for others it’s rather despise. If you look from outside-in, yes, it’s futile! Analogue relationships do come with discrete break-ups. It’s like a chaos incessantly thinking about the cause, pause and abortion of love. On contradiction (inside-out), we see very less people having an exquisite joy over their relationships in spite of all the external obstacles.
Which is a dogma here? By and large, it’s all depends on you!
There are several kinds of love as I’ve read from psychological books and journals and whatever they’re, I categorise them into two (from the point view of its origin), one is ‘stimulated love’ and other is ‘intuited love’. They’ve got a wider angle, perhaps, different extremes. Let me tell you briefly in a simple manner.
The one I called as ‘stimulated love’ is generally originated by the causal factors. In the sense, a mind has its own customised programme towards its lover/companion, their appearance, beauty, structure, attitude, communication, so on and so forth. This is normative in nature. If a person meets the norms of the one’s mind, yes! I like him/her! And finally, I do love him/her! Although this is checking the compatibility and proceeding. Certainly this is neither infatuation nor love. It lies in between. It’s all nothing but letting a person to fall in your ‘mental desirable range’ which is time bound. When the mind get distraction, attraction is gone! Majority of the love-relationships fall in this array. This is as common as breath, not great yet imperative!
And the second is ‘intuited love’. Several refer it as blind love (love is blind). Absolutely! It is intangible, abstract, and subjective. Hence, its antonym of sight-love (don’t we hear ‘love at first sight’, quite often?). Everyone sees the same thing at same place at same point of time with their eyes open. But when they close their eyes, perception varies drastically. Everybody has certain ideals which determine the kind and intensity of love. We do see this in case of blood relationships. Parental love, children love and what not! Do parents love their children with all the prerequisites (those we have in stimulated love) in their mind? If I say yes, that’s absolutely insane! It’s very much natural, intuitive and independent.
There’s a level beyond these two, yet it is blended by these. Blending of stimulated and intuitive love could be seen between a good husband and wife. Marriage is a holy step in life. It’s a validation to your love in general and salvation to your stimulated love in particular. Unification of two minds and bodies! Converging all your thoughts and feelings and stepping into a new world together.
Whatever it is, you can neither define nor deny the love. You don’t need years to sprout love. It happens, just a moment is enough! You have to wait for that moment.
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