Feel From The Heart

Feel From The Heart

 “When there is a conflict between the brain and the heart, let the heart to be followed”.                                                                                                                – Swami   Vivekananda.              

Chapter 1 :PREFACE

None of the knowledge is mine. What I have learnt is from others. You will find such similar ideas in many books. But I wanted a book that is precise, simple to understand, makes sense and is freely available to anyone. A straight to the point book. This is the effort of many days, boiled, purified and refined to the very basic principles. But I would like to thank the greatest teacher of all ; my Electronics teacher Mr. Pavan Kumar who has had a significant influence on me.
Basically I am interested to tell you ‘THE CONCEPTS’ which develops character and in turn build personality.. Actually character is the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive; especially somebody’s qualities of mind and feeling; qualities that makes somebody or something interesting or attractive..

Now coming to the personality; Personality can be defined as a dynamic and organised set of characteristics possessed by a person that uniquely influence his/her cognitions, motivations and behaviours in various situations.

Its just a guideline to be understood and followed. Some things might not make sense immediately or the interpretation of this might be different but the basic principles remain the same no matter what. What I am about to present here to you is extremely difficult and cannot be done within a day or a month...

What lies at the end of this journey will become more clear as you  progress down this path.

I hope you make good use of this knowledge and distribute it to others in need. This is going to be a journey within yourself, so I wish good luck.. I wish you great success in the exploration and discovery. May you banish negative experiences and bring you balance and expanded experience of life.......

Chapter 2 : WORK

“Work without attachment.”
                               -Bhagavad Gita

Do not seek or ask for the fruits of your effort. Work as it it is your duty to do it. Ask yourself everyday " If I didnt get paid to do this, will I still be doing this ?"

Do what you must. Do not seek what you can get out of it, rather how much can you give. It is in giving that one receives peace. Do not try to control, or to win or to horde. Do it because you really really want to do it.

Gauthama Buddha desricbe this concept very logically. He says, when a person is attached to the results of the work that he is going to do or he has already done; there will be two possible ways. Firslty, if he gets success, he will become much more greeder and desireful and seeks more and more success; secondly if he doesn't get success, then he will be trapped by the ocean of sorrows and his mind will be filled by unhappyness. So to keep the mind in the stady and constant condition, one must work without attachement to the results of his/ her work.

A man who seeks the fruits of his effort is forever caught in the trap of

delusion, wanting and desires.

• A man should not care who gets the credits for it.

• A man should not care what money he will get for it in return.

• A man should not care what he gains out of it.

A man who gives up his own personal desires and thinks about the greater good, will always enjoy his work. A man must work for the benefit of others and the society. He must use his skills for betterment of the society rather than to just serve himself. Everyone born in this world, have been given a specific purpose. It is a man's duty to find that out and complete it in the best possible way.He has also been given skills that will assist him the completion of his duty. By getting caught in the trap of desires he forgets his real duties.

It is far better to fail in your own duty, than to do others duty.

"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking and don't settle. As with all matters of heart, you'll know when you find it".

Chapter 3 : DESIRE

“Desire is the root cause of man's suffering.”
                                                           - Buddha

When a desire arises, a man becomes attached to it. If he gets it, he feels happy, then he wants more. If he does not get it, he feels sad and blames others for it. Its a endless cycle.

     Once a man has a high paying job, he wants a bigger house, then a car, then good clothes, then new furniture to match the status of his life, then more money is needed, then he wants to join club houses, then he wants another house, then some more money, then more...the never ending cycle. Once a man gets trapped in the cycle of desires and wanting then is no peace for him. He looses his sleep and patience, running after one thing or another all his life. 

A man who is free of all personal desires and wants is a happy man.

MATERIAL WEALTH:-
    Accumulation of money does no good. Neither does success or winning has any real meaning. Do not look at the possession of others.

    A man who works for the betterment of society, rather than his own
success is far superior and intelligent. Getting good grades in college and using the knowledge for ones own
desire and achievements is disaster. Knowledge which does nor... bring peace and happiness to self and others is not worth keeping.

“Strive not to be a man of success, rather strive to be a man of value.”
                                                                                          -Albert Einstein
       Knowing that success and failure is just a state of mind, one should always keep his mind steady fast in both. Neither getting happy when successful, nor becoming sad in failure a man must not concern himself with such delusions of nature. Attachment to worldly objects (houses, cars, phones, clothes, looks, fame, fortune, money, prestige, society, etc) will lead to suffering.
       A man should forget the very concept of possession and ownership. A man cannot own anything in this world for ever. When he dies he has to leave everything behind.  If you start spending time & money for the things that you don't need; then later you have to sacrifice the things that you need. So one should not spend his life in the useless pursuit of acquiring things that he does not need but rather should think of what service can he render for humanity that will serve everyone.

Chapter 4 : DARK JUNGLE OF LIFE

Life is like a dark jungle and here are the enemies of a man that he is going to meet in his journey which he must conquer on his own.

• Greed

• Anger

• Lust

• Egotism

• Falsehood

• Deception

• Lying

• Stealing

• Dishonesty

• Cheating

• Cruelty

• Killing

• Pride

• Arrogance

• Conceit

• Vanity

• Jealousy

• Envy

• Sloth

• Impatience

• Indecision

• Selfishness

• Revenge

• Hate

• Wrath

• Gluttony

• Idleness

• Attachment

There are more, its not possible to list all of them here, but I have listed the major ones, the first three being the biggest enemies of all. Where even one of the above enemy is present, others are bound to be found. There are extremely difficult to locate and remove since they are hidden within the man himself. They are like termites that eat up a man from inside. It takes a man away from his true duties and leads him to a false materialistic life which always ends up in disaster. A mind filled with such impurities is always agitated. 

Every man must cross this dark jungle of life on his own. No one can help him in this process. A man must take a through note of himself at end of every month to see which one of these enemies is still present. Below is a rough description of each one of them to assist him in this process.

Greed • Greed is the selfish desire for or pursuit of money, wealth, power, food, or other possessions, especially when this denies the same goods to others.

• An excessive desire to acquire or possess more than what one needs or deserves, especially with respect to material wealth.

• A selfish and excessive desire for more of something (as money) than is needed.

Anger

• Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage.

Lust

• Lust is any intense desire or craving for gratification and excitement.

• Intense or unrestrained sexual craving.

• To have an intense or obsessive desire, especially one that is sexual.

Egotism

• The tendency to speak or write of oneself excessively and boastfully.

• An inflated or exaggerated sense of one's own importance.

• The practice of thought, speech, and conduct expressing high selfregard or selfexaltation,

usually without skepticism or humility.

• The practice of talking about oneself too much.

• Egotism is the motivation to maintain and enhance favorable views of self. Egotism means placing oneself at the center of one's world with no direct concern for others.

Falsehood

• An untrue statement; a lie.

• The practice of lying.

• Absence of truth or accuracy.

Deception

• Deception is the act of convincing another to believe information that is not true, or not the whole truth as in certain types of halftruths.

• Deception involves concepts like propaganda, distraction and/or concealment.

• Tricking others for own personal gain.

Lying

• To present false information with the intention of deceiving.

• To convey a false image or impression.

Stealing or Theft

• Theft is the illegal taking of another person's property without that person's freelygiven consent.

Dishonesty

• Lack of honesty or integrity.

• As the act or to act without honesty; a lack of probity, to cheat, lying or being deliberately deceptive; lacking in integrity; to be knavish, perfidious, corrupt or treacherous; charlatanism or quackery.

Cheating

• To deceive by trickery; swindle.

• To deprive by trickery; defraud.

• To mislead; fool.

• To act dishonestly; practice fraud.

• To violate rules deliberately.

• Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others. Cheating implies the breaking of rules.

Cruelty

• Something, such as a cruel act or remark, that causes pain or suffering.

• Cruelty can be described as indifference to suffering, and even positive pleasure in inflicting it.

Killing • To kill, killing or to have killed means to cause the death of a living organism.

• To deprive one of life.

Pride

• Pride is a lofty view of one's self or one's own.

• Inordinate selfesteem.

• Delight or elation arising from some act, possession, or

relationship.

Arrogance

• An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.

• Excessive pride.

Conceit

• A favorable and especially unduly high opinion of one's own abilities or worth.

Arrogance

• An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.

• Excessive pride.

Vanity

• Excessive or inflated pride in one's appearance or accomplishments.

• Excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others.

• Seeking admiration for ones looks or achievements

Jealousy

• Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat.

• Intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness.

• Disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness.

• Hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage.

Envy

• A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another.

• Painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage.

• Envy may be defined as an emotion that "occurs when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it."

Sloth

• Aversion to work or exertion; laziness; indolence.

• Disinclination to action or labor.

Impatience

• Restless or short of temper especially under irritation, delay, or opposition.

• Eagerly desirous.

Selfishness

• Concerned chiefly or only with oneself.

• Seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or wellbeing without regard for others.

• Selfishness denotes the precedence given in thought or deed to the self, i.e., self interest or self concern. It is the act of placing one's own needs or desires above the needs or desires of others.

 • Arising from concern with one's own welfare or advantage in disregard of others.

Revenge

• The act of taking vengeance for injuries or wrongs; retaliation.

• To inflict punishment in return for injury or insult.

• Revenge (also vengeance, retribution, or vendetta amongst others) consists primarily of retaliation against a person or group in response to a real or perceived wrongdoing.

Hate

• Hatred or hate is a word that describes intense feelings of dislike. It can be used in a wide variety of contexts, from hatred of inanimate objects to hatred of other people.

Wrath

• Described as inordinate and uncontrolled feelings of hatred and anger.

Gluttony

• Overindulgence and overconsumption of food, drink, or intoxicants to the point of waste.

• Excess in eating or drinking.

• Greedy or excessive indulgence.

Idleness

• Idleness means the act of doing nothing or no work.

• A person who spends his days doing nothing of relative importance.

Attachment

• Exaggerated not wanting to be separated from someone or something.

• Attachment to people, places, things, wealth, status, etc.

“Once you start down the dark path, forever it will dominate your destiny, consume you it will..."             - Yoda (Star Wars)

Chapter 5 : OTHERS

A man does not want anything.

The only reason he wants something is because others are having it.

He is always engaged in comparison with others.

• I have so much money, that person has so much more.

• I look like this, that person is better looking than me.

• I have few friends, that person is so lucky since he has more wealthy and influential friends.

• I have a smaller houses, that person has a bigger and a better house.

• I have such clothes, that person is better dressed than me.

• I am not educated or intelligent like others, that person is better educated and intelligent than me.

• My father is poor, that person's father is more famous and rich.

• That other person is so much smarter than me.

• That other person is so much better than me.

• That other person has so many friends.

• That other person has something that I dont have...

And so on and on it goes forever. Never satisfied with what he has, a man sees others having more than him, he wants more and more. This he keeps doing everyday. In the reality he does not want a bigger house, cars, etc but since someone else has it, he too wants to have it. This leads to greed, jealousy and envy. Although he says nice words to others, but in his heart he does not like others who are better than him. He only feels better when he is at the top. No one else is above him in any way. As soon as someone has 0.001% more than he has he does not like it. This leads to competition and a race to win.

He who is content with himself is at peace.

Chapter 6 : SENSE ORGANS

There are 5 sense organs :

• Sight (eyes)

• Touch (skin)

• Hearing (ears)

• Taste (tongue)

• Smell (nose)

A man must learn to control the sense organs. He must make himself the master of his senses and be able to control them at will. Below are few examples that show how a man's sense organs go out of control :

• If a man see something pleasurable, then a desire to own it arises.

• If a man smells something delicious, his mouth starts watering and a desire to eat it arises.

• If a man taste a delicious dish, he wants more again and again.

• If a man hears a nice melody, he feels better for some time.

• If a man comes in contact with a pleasurable item, he wants more of it.

Sense organs blind a man to reality. A man becomes a slave to his senses. Senses are very strong and hard to control. They are like wild horses running after one thing or another. A man must be able to withdraw from his sense organs like a tortoise

withdraws in his shell. He must be self restrain in food, speech, spending, sleep and all other

forms of sense enjoyments. 

Taking only what he must, and giving back all he can. A stead and resolute determination is required.

Chapter 7 : BRAIN IS JUST A TOOL

Brain of man is just a tool that is provided for survival and creation.

But a man uses his brain to :

• Making plans to fulfill his selfish desires

• Find loopholes in the system for his own exploitation and gains

• Planning and doing all the wrong acts

• Making plans of harming others

• Making plans of destruction

A man must understand that the brain is just a part of body. It is the control center of all bodily functions and thought. It is not meant for making plans for exploitation of others, neither for self enjoyment nor for ones self serving purposes. "A knife can be used by a robber to kill a person and the same knife can be used by a doctor to save a person's life."

This is the same thing that applies for a man's brain. Either a man can use it to do wrong, or right with it.  

Doing the right thing with it is the right and proper use of it. Always ask these questions :

 • "Whether what I am about to do is going to help others ?"

• "Whether what I am about to do is the right thing to do ?"

Doing the right things will bring a man peace and happiness and doing wrong will agitate him and others. This will lead to all sort of diseases and problems later in his life. A man must be very careful of what he thinks, says, hears, sees and does. Everything will leave a impression on him.

“What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.” Albert Pike

Chapter 8 : CONSCIENCE

A man must always follow his own conscience, his inner voice.

Whenever a man is going towards wrong, his conscience will always stop him. But a man refuses to listen to it, thinking that he is more smarter.

    

A man's conscience is never wrong. It always shows the right path. A man must always do whatever agrees with his own conscience, judgment and common sense. Blindly following others will lead a man into a wrong path. A man must learn to be patient and trust his conscience.

A man must make his conscience his moral compass to navigate him through life. A man can escape his punishment from the courts of law using his money and power, but his conscience never forgives a wrong deed done. His own inner voice will keep hurting him for all the wrong that he has done.

When there is righteousness in the heart, then there is a beauty in the character;

When there is a beauty in the character, then there is harmony in the home;

When there is harmony in the home, then there is an order in the nation;

And when there is an order in the nation, then there will be peace in the world.

          _ By a tamilian classical poet, who said 3000 years back.

“The only tyrant I accept in this world is the 'still small voice' within” Mahatma Gandhi

“There is no pillow so soft as a clear conscience” French proverb

Chapter 9 : LEARNING

Only a learned man is able to help the society in a better way.

A man must devote some time everyday to learning.

Any waste of time is very harmful. A man should not be totally dependent on others to teach him something. He must take a personal responsibility towards learning. The more a man knows, the better way he will be able to serve the society. Do not learn just to earn money, or to gain success and fame. Such selfish learning is of no use.

“Anyone who stop learning is old, whether at twenty or at eighty” Henry Ford.

Chapter 10 : FINAL THOUGHTS

A man should be unmoved in criticism or praise

Neither should he be concern with victory, nor with defeat

Neither hate nor love sways his mind

Neither does he gets dictated by emotions

Neither does he seek pleasure, nor avoids discomforts

Neither does he get angry, nor feels sad

Neither greed of money nor power can change his way

Neither does he become a slave, nor does he enslave anyone

Looks at a piece of gold and a rock with an equal eye Never makes enemy of his fellow beings, nor makes fun of others Corrects his own mistakes first, rather than looking at the mistakes of others Treats others with courtesy and respect, rich or poor Does what is right Lives for betterment of society and others Free of all attachments and desire ...is a happy man...

Chapter 11 : THE END

This is a very short and precise guide. I have tried to keep it as simple as possible so that anyone can understand it. Do not believe in what others say or do, or what is written in books. Always use your own commonsense above everything else. Know this to be the greatest wisdom of all. This letter is not yet finished...more refinement is needed which I hope to do it in coming days if my brain works.....

“Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone Else's life. Don't be trapped by the dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking's. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Because they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

               - Steve Jobs  { Co-founder,  Apple Inc.}

                                         

                                                                                                   Shylesh D P